A lighthearted, cheeky, and judgment-free handbook from sober sexpert Tawny Lara on how to have better sex, better dates, and better partnerships—without relying on alcohol!
When you’re intimidated or overwhelmed, it’s easy to turn to alcohol to feel more relaxed and outgoing. But what if you want to cut back or cut out alcohol from your life? What do you do on dates? How do you soothe worries and hang-ups? And how the heck do you get up the nerve to be naked with someone new?
In Dry Humping, you will learn how to have better dates, sex, and partnerships with tools like:
Booze-free date ideas
Scripts for awkward conversations
Interviews with experts
Perspectives from a diverse range of regular people
You don’t need alcohol to have a fun, carefree, fulfilling dating life. Dry Humping offers you the tools to step away from alcohol, for however long you want to, while also having more fun in and out of the bedroom.
About the Author
Tawny Lara, also known as The Sober Sexpert, writes and speaks about alcohol-free sex and dating. Her work is featured in Playboy, Men’s Health, the Huffington Post, and two essay collections: Sex and the Single Woman and The Addiction Diaries. She is the co-host of the Signal Award-winning podcast Recovery Rocks, and story developer for the Webby Award–winning podcast F*cking Sober. Dry Humping is her first book.
“An insider view on what it means to date and live sober and offers tips for readers struggling with things like body dysmorphia, addiction, and just plain bad dates. Lara’s authentic approach may inspire readers to take action to improve their own lives”—Library Journal
“Tawny Lara is the Esther Perel of sober dating. Whether you're cutting back on alcohol or cutting it out entirely, she has all the tips and advice you need to find the relationship and sex life of your dreams. Dry Humping is one of the most empathetic and hilarious books I've read this year.”—Gigi Engle, certified sex educator, psychotherapist, and author of All The F*cking Mistakes
“As a therapist specializing in substance use, sex and dating are often the biggest barriers that prevent folks from getting sober or cutting back. Tawny has written THE definitive guide to both. I cannot wait to share this book with clients!”—Amanda E. White, LPC, @therapyforwomen and author of Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love
“Dry Humping is an insightful, digestible, and amusing guide to sober dating and sex. Tawny Lara is truly the sober sexpert of this generation. A must-read for anybody who's interested in sober living and relating in this booze-ful world!”—Dr. Tara, world famous sex and relationship coach, tenured professor, author, and tech advisor
“We’ve been sold a phony film narrative in every movie since we watched our first teen rom-com in junior high: that liquid courage leads to lifelong romance. Tawny Lara’s Dry Humping expertly explains why that’s a lie and teaches how to reframe drinking in the dating discourse. Dry Humping is an uplifting, down-to-earth, meet-you-where-you’re-at guide guaranteed to change the story of alcohol in your life.”—Ted Mandell, Notre Dame Professor of Drunk on Film: The Psychology of Storytelling with Alcohol and Its Effects on Alcohol Consumption “Dry Humping is an absolute gem. From the title on, I was drawn in by Tawny’s humor, knowledge, and tact with topics like emotional intimacy, sex, and communication. As a person with long-term sobriety and in a long-term committed relationship, I wasn’t expecting to learn much, but I was wrong! This is a must-read for anyone who wants to strengthen their intimate relationships.”—Emily Lynn Paulson, founder of Sober Mom Squad and author of Hey, Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and the Other Lies Behind Multilevel Marketing
“Tawny Lara is the sober sex guru of our generation...a brilliant example of a sexy sober person living boldly. With this guide, we will know ourselves better and choose better partners because of it. Sober-curious or not, we all need this book."—Paulina Pinsky, co-author of It Doesn't Have to Be Awkward
“Dry Humping is the ultimate wingman (or woman! Or person!) for anyone looking to navigate the dating world sober-style. Tawny Lara’s insights and booze-free date ideas will leave you feeling confident and in control of your love life and empowered. Dry Humping is the sober dating bible you never knew you needed. With Tawny Lara’s help, you’ll learn how to charm your way through any awkward situation, no alcohol required.”—Erin Lee Carr, author of All That You Leave Behind: a Memoir
“A fresh, enlightening, and inclusive look into sober dating, sex, love, relationships...and everything in between (the sheets)!”—Amanda Kuda, Author of Unbottled Potential: Break Up with Alcohol and Break Through to Your Best Life
“Dry Humping is the book I was missing when I first quit drinking. Tawny brings such warmth and relatability to the subject that even the most fearful of sober daters will come out of this read more optimistic. There's a universality to her advice that extends far beyond people who recently quit drinking. I recommend this book to anyone looking to explore dating with fresh eyes.”—Ginny Hogan, author of I'm More Dateable than a Plate of Refried Beans
“Dry Humping gives you a roadmap that’s not only inspiring, transformative, humorous, and engaging from the very first page; Tawny gifts you with a manifesto that cuts through the BS and will equip you with practical tools so you can reclaim yourself and your sex life. Count me the heck in!”—Africa Brooke, Consultant, Mentor, Writer